Good suffering


 Parenting is hard work. It takes a lot of perseverance, dedication, and yes, blood, sweat and tears. As parents we use rewards and punishment in an effort to shape and mold children’s behavior that will serve our children well as adults.


The prefer method is to use rewards because it’s fun all the way around. We like to bless our kids with good things when they do what is required of them. As a father of five very different children the methods change for each individual child but the goals and main methods remain the same.


What will motivate one to good behavior will not motivate another. What will discourage one from bad behavior may have little to no effect on another. It’s a daunting task to say the least. Once in a while even parents get it wrong. 


The harsh reality is that we sometimes get punished for doing right in this world. Jesus understood this and let’s us know that our good deeds will not go unnoticed by our Heavenly Father. He will take care of blessing us at the right time.


However let us be careful that we are not being punished for doing wrong. In that case we brought it on ourselves. Lesson learned, take note of it, make the appropriate adjustments and move on. 

God’s goal is to shape and mold our characters in order for us to be a blessing to ourselves and others around us. He disciplines the children he loves.

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